What's Loved Got To Do With It?

Valentine's Day. The only day of the year that inspires two kinds of emotions: 1) Aaaahhhhhh! (2) Sadness. (well, maybe even 4 if you include lust and greed. But that's a whole different blog.) Anyway, I fit into that second category, as do probably a few million others. My whole problem with this day is that I don't understand why there's one day set aside in the whole year when lovers/couples are supposed to show each other just exactly how much they love each other. Why only one day per year? What happened to the other 364 days? Shouldn't we be telling and showing our loved ones every single day just exactly how much we love them? What happened to the simple act of saying "I Love You" each and every day to those we love? Slipping a 'love" note into someones pocket, or lunch bag, or leaving a little something on their pillow? Or giving them a card on a day other than Feb 14 that says 'I Love You'? Or any one of a thousand other things to show them how we feel about them? Hallmark is making a ton of moula by inventing "holidays". Why do we feed into this?

So getting back to the 2 emotions. I fit into the Sadness category. For those of us who don't have a significant other to oooh and aaahhhh over....and who we want to ooooh and aaaaahhhhh over us....well, here's a clue to all of you who do have that kind of someone in your life: it makes us sad. We feel left out. We feel like we're not worthy of love.

And then there's the dance at church. Yes, we actually have a Valentine's Dance. I complained about this last year....very loudly......and asked more than once "What about all of us who don't have anyone to dance with?" and was told - more than once -"well, there will be games that you can play!" The nerve! Like I want to come and sit and play games and watch everyone else dance and make googly eyes and whatever! Sounds like a great night to me. So when this years dance was announced an older lady who happens to be a widow and was sitting next to me turned to me and said "Why do I want to go to that dance and watch everyone else dance and have fun together?" And I thought I was the only one who felt like that. So I protested loudly - again - and would you believe I got the same answer as I did last year! So, again this year I will be boycotting this dance. Not that it will make any difference. The acitivities committee is made up of men and women - couples - who just don't seem to get that not everyone is sickeningly (is that a word) lovesick as they are.

So that's my beef of the day. Just had to voice my opinion.